Damage THE END

It is very unfortunate that Martyn passed away in the end. I hate the fact that the narrator was always concerned about Anna's whereabouts. It didn't help that Ingrid left him, and Sally now doesn't know what love is. His family is torn and his relationship with Anna gone forever. It wasn't a surprise that he was left alone and in misery. He has now acquired whatever drama his life was missing. This was the cherry on top, and he still didn't learn until Anna was on the hands of another. He mentioned dying twice. I feel yes his previous life with Ingrid had died as he became more involved into Anna, and now his current life full of dramatics is over due to the death of his son. I do not agree with Ingrid, the narrator dying would have been too easy for him, he needs to live with the pain of what he has done, and deal with the guilt and selfish acts of his nature.

Wanting the DAMAGED goods.......

So far Damaged is a very good reading. I admire the way our narrator articulates his words with detailed examples followed by vivid personification. His lifestyle of always trying to be the best or at least in his words "avoid being dominated by his own father" did not come as a surprise to me when he began to fall for Anna Barton. Perfectionists usually have some loose end somewhere. Our narrator said himself that "to be in the game, but not playing with intent to win, is to be the enemy". Here he is being the unrecognized villain in this game and cannot do anything to suppress it. Because the reading was so good, I had to try my very best not to read past chapter 14 before I wrote my blog but I believe he is going to try to thwart his son  either into not going to Paris, or not prolonging things with Anna. Speaking of Anna, I totally agree with her statement about all people that are damaged are dangerous. She said survival makes them this way. I believe with damaged people the worst was/has been done, so whatever the next person is going through isn't half as bad as what they've been through themselves. This definitely is something that experience instills in you, and the universe throws your way. I do not believe it is necessarily a bad trait either, it is a strengthening mechanism regardless if it is voluntary or involuntary.

Lolita......

I'll be quite honest it was quite uncomfortable reading this entry. Out of all the entries of this semester, this was the worst. I am open to the idea of reading about other peoples' experiences but it becomes unfortunate to get into the mind of a peeping tom/ pedophile. He even created a name for the young girls and referred to them as nymphets. Ugh!!!! His obsessions and infatuations were described in a extreme and vivid way, at the same time, it brought me to understand these men better but inevitably, NOT AGREE WITH THEIR ACTIONS. I understand they are weak, manipulative, and lonely. And take advantage of the innocence in younger women/girls. They use this innocence in a way that works to their advantage and prey on the vulnerability of females and their emotions, especially at a young age.

Love and Limerence (Individual Experience of Limerence)

This individual experience is something that many people have witnessed or gone through themselves. The excerpt begins well with the statement limerence enters your life pleasantly. It its definitely and unexpected, warm, pleasant feeling (obviously speaking from my own personal experience). When he says it is an interpretation of events rather than the events themselves, I said "Yes! Yes!". I believe its the effects and concept of the experience morso that holds meaning and worth. It is truly something I feel everyone should expensive at least once in their lives. After reading I believed that the whole idea of love and limerence  held truth in saying it was related to obsession in a good way. The yearning and intrusive thoughts were accurate with obsessions definition as well as the idea of inappropriate actions/thoughts. The reason why I say inappropriate because from what I get from the reading is limerence is experienced from a select few of people in our lifetimes. In order for it to be limerence it cannot occur with everyone you become involved with. One major factor why I say this is since sex is seldom the main focus of limerence that eliminates many people's love/infatuation circumstances. Also, this is in conjunction with the statement that lime rent fantasies do not necessarily cease when an actual relationship begins. they may diminish or increase in frequency, depending on circumstances. I do not feel that this is a trait that can be felt with any and everyone. Places, people, words all play into what drives limerence, which is completely different with every experience encountered. I believe I myself felt limerence limitedly within in my life, once with a crush, and the second time with a boyfriend that is now one of my closest friends. 

obsession sex and love........

Well I really believe that all this talk about love and it's obsessive traits are to derived from society and it's productions such as the Internet. I like the idea of him mentioning that their is a correlation between sex and the longevity of marriage. I know for sure that this has everything to do with times changing over the centuries. Despite the fact that men have always been more sexually driven, it is a plus that Davis recognized how the societal expectations of today as far as marriage is concerned is effected by this drive between spouses. One trait that I know has a lot to do with today's mind state is the mind of a sex addict. The addict's guilt has a lot to be affected by what society views as normal. Had this not been the case instead of getting helping today, had things been the way they used to be he would be institutionalized!!!!!! Sexuality plays a major part in our daily roles, appearances, and livelihood during our current era, and Davis does a superb job in recognizing and exemplifying these attributes.

The possession

This was the perfect title for the reading because it was as if the author-annie ernaux-, was possessed by a being with vengeful tactics she created. She played out all aspects of this womans lifestyle without ever meeting her.
She envisioned a would-be relationship that W would or may have with this other woman. She had no solid facts, other then the profession.
Simple conversations that annie had with W turned into a session of america's most wanted. If he mentioned to her, "tippy just crossed my mind" she thought to herself, hmmmm when was the last time you even thought about me, or so me just crossing your mind confirms I'm no longer your primary go to person for companionship. Annie began to analyze everything about W's life without realizing she was living her life through his possible actions, without actually living Annie's life without W. She even  admitted to falling prey to the attacks of an outside world reminding her of their common past.
The structure of having one paragraph per page kept me excited to know what else she would do, in order to relieve herself of the misery.

Specialists and Ocd

Specialization as a cause for OCD, for a statement I tried hard not to agree with initially when reading this book. Davis' account on why he feels specialists are prone to having obsessive habits, never made much sense until I read chapter three. Golton's behavior explained by himself as well as David presented a first hand account on not why, but how specialists' behavior exhibits obsessive traits. Chapter three page 92, Golton  describes his "necessity of obtaining a multitude of exact measurements relating to every measurable faculty of the body or mind, for two generations at least, on which to theorise". He goes on to admit, whenever he met people he would classify them based on how he perceived them. Usually on a scale of three classes ' good medium, and bad'. He would also classify women into three categories attractive, indifferent, and repellent. His obsessive behaviors became apart of him as well as his daily activities. He was monitoring the two rows of people and how many times they would figit in their seats. He even went as far to mathematically determine why the Africans posterior was uniquely larger than most women. His obsessive behavior in turn made him the scientist who he was, which society benefited from. This is and may be the case for many doctors, lawyers, psychologists, etc. Their crafts become them. In my major, you have to eat, breath, and sleep through information in order to retain it to memory, so much that the slightest problem I may encounter I assume its the cause of some factor I've learned  in school. I'm not saying that I am a specialist, but I deeply understand the uncontrolled obsessive thoughts and actions one may have engaging in their specialties.