Lolita......

I'll be quite honest it was quite uncomfortable reading this entry. Out of all the entries of this semester, this was the worst. I am open to the idea of reading about other peoples' experiences but it becomes unfortunate to get into the mind of a peeping tom/ pedophile. He even created a name for the young girls and referred to them as nymphets. Ugh!!!! His obsessions and infatuations were described in a extreme and vivid way, at the same time, it brought me to understand these men better but inevitably, NOT AGREE WITH THEIR ACTIONS. I understand they are weak, manipulative, and lonely. And take advantage of the innocence in younger women/girls. They use this innocence in a way that works to their advantage and prey on the vulnerability of females and their emotions, especially at a young age.

Love and Limerence (Individual Experience of Limerence)

This individual experience is something that many people have witnessed or gone through themselves. The excerpt begins well with the statement limerence enters your life pleasantly. It its definitely and unexpected, warm, pleasant feeling (obviously speaking from my own personal experience). When he says it is an interpretation of events rather than the events themselves, I said "Yes! Yes!". I believe its the effects and concept of the experience morso that holds meaning and worth. It is truly something I feel everyone should expensive at least once in their lives. After reading I believed that the whole idea of love and limerence  held truth in saying it was related to obsession in a good way. The yearning and intrusive thoughts were accurate with obsessions definition as well as the idea of inappropriate actions/thoughts. The reason why I say inappropriate because from what I get from the reading is limerence is experienced from a select few of people in our lifetimes. In order for it to be limerence it cannot occur with everyone you become involved with. One major factor why I say this is since sex is seldom the main focus of limerence that eliminates many people's love/infatuation circumstances. Also, this is in conjunction with the statement that lime rent fantasies do not necessarily cease when an actual relationship begins. they may diminish or increase in frequency, depending on circumstances. I do not feel that this is a trait that can be felt with any and everyone. Places, people, words all play into what drives limerence, which is completely different with every experience encountered. I believe I myself felt limerence limitedly within in my life, once with a crush, and the second time with a boyfriend that is now one of my closest friends. 

obsession sex and love........

Well I really believe that all this talk about love and it's obsessive traits are to derived from society and it's productions such as the Internet. I like the idea of him mentioning that their is a correlation between sex and the longevity of marriage. I know for sure that this has everything to do with times changing over the centuries. Despite the fact that men have always been more sexually driven, it is a plus that Davis recognized how the societal expectations of today as far as marriage is concerned is effected by this drive between spouses. One trait that I know has a lot to do with today's mind state is the mind of a sex addict. The addict's guilt has a lot to be affected by what society views as normal. Had this not been the case instead of getting helping today, had things been the way they used to be he would be institutionalized!!!!!! Sexuality plays a major part in our daily roles, appearances, and livelihood during our current era, and Davis does a superb job in recognizing and exemplifying these attributes.